Ever wonder what goes through your woman’s mind when she’s pleasuring herself? Is she thinking of you? A sexy male model? Adam fucking Levine?

A new study done by one of the world’s biggest sex toy retailers, LoveHoney, just found out what goes on in the mind of a woman when she’s getting herself off, and you may be surprised. The survey found that the top fantasies during masturbation were basically the same for both men and women, and mainly involved current partners.

How precious.

Respondents reported that their number one fantasy while masturbating was simply thinking about sex with their partner, to the tune of 69 percent of men and 60 percent of women.

The second most popular fantasy? Some 58 percent of men and 48 percent of women reported fantasizing about sexy time with an ex. The third most popular fantasy, for 57 percent of men and 43 percent of women, was found to be erotica and porn, followed by role play and BDSM in fourth and fifth place, accounting for about 30 percent between the genders.

The survey of 4,500 respondents also found that 59 percent of men and 65 percent of women masturbate on a regular basis, even if they’re in a loving and committed relationship. The survey also revealed that the majority of respondents don’t think masturbating makes sex with their partner feel any less enjoyable. In fact, 21 percent of men and 34 percent of women actually think rubbing one out makes sex even better. 

We already told you earlier this week that playing with yourself makes you happy and healthy, and this news generally feels positive. Well, except for the thinking-of-an-ex thing. 


At least she’s not thinking of Adam Levine. Unless she used to date him. In which case you might be banging Nina Agdal. In which case you might be Leo DiCaprio. In which case you have nothing to complain about. OK, we’re done.

Photo: iStock/Orange-Melody 

Author: Ashley Rose