when it comes to sports, courtship and shotgunning beers, you want to win. But the bedroom is the one place where you actually want to finish last. When it comes to sex, coming first isn’t exactly something to brag about. Luckily, there are ways to increase sexual endurance, so you’ll be able to please her all night long.

1. Masturbate beforehand.
If you ejaculate an hour or two before sex, it’ll be more difficult for you to come as quickly. So rub one out before you get in the sack, and you’ll keep a better pace.

2. Give edging a try.
Never heard of it? Well, now’s the time to get acquainted. When you’re about to orgasm, stop and wait a minute before going at it again. This will train your body to delay that point of no return.

3. Do kegel exercises.
These exercises strengthen your pelvic floor muscles, which help control your orgasms.

4. Grab thicker condoms.
Over the years, condom companies have gotten smarter. They’ve come up with rubbers to satisfy your every need, including thicker condoms that desensitize your member. If for some reason you aren’t using condoms at all during sex, wearing a condom in general will dull your sensations… oh, and prevent the spread of STD’s.

5. Do the squeeze.
If you feel your orgasm coming, stop and squeeze right below the head of your penis. You can do this with your hand or a cock ring, and it will quite literally stop you from ejaculating.

6. Remember: Ladies first.
If you help her finish first, whether it’s with your fingers, toy or mouth, seeing her fully satisfied will relieve some of the pressure you’re feeling to last longer.

7. Practice the seven-and-nine technique.
Quick thrusting = quick orgasm. Instead, practice the Kama Sutra method of doing seven fast in/out strokes followed by nine slow in/out strokes. This establishes a good rhythm for her, too.

8. Use a delay spray.
Yes, it exists! This endurance enhancer desensitizes the nerves of your penis (like the thicker condoms) with as little as three sprays. Don’t worry; it won’t numb you completely. It’ll simply turn your sprint into a marathon.

9. Change it up.
If you’ve been with your partner for a while, sex can start to feel mundane. If your body can anticipate what’s coming, you’ll come a lot sooner. New positions and sensations will distract you and make you last longer.

10. Medicate.
In certain situations, you might want to consider seeing a doctor. A variety of medications are available if premature ejaculation is negatively affecting your relationship. There are also over-the-counter remedies, but seeking out the help of an expert is always the best way to go—especially when it comes to your sexual health.